Fabulous Unfairness
Life isn’t fair.
The sooner we stop expecting it to be, the freer we become.
Understanding life’s fabulous unfairness will set you free in ways few things can.
Life Isn’t Fair, and That’s OK
The world is full of injustice.
- Over a billion people still don’t have access to water; forget clean, just water.
- Women do over 65% of the world’s labour, yet earn less than 15% of the income and control less than 1% of the assets.
- When children write to Santa, the most requested gift is… a dad.
Unfair?
Absolutely.
But here’s the shift I’d like you to try on.
The problem isn’t that life isn’t fair.
The problem is believing it should be.
When we cling to the idea of fairness, we anchor ourselves in resentment, guilt, and comparison - instead of gratitude, ownership, and agency.
🎥 In this video, I dive deeper into this perplexing and liberating truth.
👉 Watch the full video on YouTube: Fabulous Unfairness
In it, I unpack why needing life to be “fair” keeps us trapped and how letting go of that illusion opens the door to power, peace, purpose, and prosperity - that’s a lot of P’s.
The Cost of “That’s Not Fair”
When we get caught up in fairness, a few sneaky things happen:
- We slip into victim mode, believing life is happening to us, not for us.
- We waste our energy raging against what should be instead of creating what can be.
- We carry guilt for what we have or shame for wanting more.
… and it’s never a complete picture we chew on either.
Most often, when people complain about unfairness, they only look at the ways they feel they are disadvantaged.
What about all the “Unfair Advantages” you have?
Use Your “Unfair Advantages”. They are gifts you are Meant To Use
We all have unfair advantages.
Some visible.
Some hidden.
Some earned.
Some mental.
Some physical.
Some are gifted.
Some are by virtue of who we were born to, where we were born, when we were born and what we were born as.
And guess what?
That’s OK.
Because the real question isn’t why do I have this?
It’s…
What will I do with all your unfair advantages?
If you’ve got access to education, stability, health, wealth - use it.
Not with guilt, but with grace.
“If you want to help the poor, don’t be poor.”
When you build your wealth wisely, you expand your capacity to do good.
You amplify your impact.
You model what’s possible.
And that is the antidote to injustice.
Know this…
Guilt and gratitude can’t coexist.
When you’re feeling guilty for your blessings, you block yourself from receiving and from giving.
So if you’ve ever found yourself downplaying your success, shrugging off compliments, or saying, “Oh, it’s nothing…” - pause.
That’s not humility.
That’s hiding.
Remember, your playing small doesn’t serve anyone.
Nature isn’t fair.
Life isn’t symmetrical.
It is beautiful when we stop fighting it.
The universe doesn’t owe us equality;
it offers us opportunity.
Your job is to use what you have, your unfair, fabulous advantages, in service of something bigger than yourself.
Because guilt keeps you small and gratitude makes you powerful.
And when you shift from resentment to responsibility, from comparison to contribution, life opens up in the most extraordinary ways.
🌟 So Here’s Your Wealth Work
- Notice where you’re clinging to “it’s not fair.”
- Ask: “How can I use what I do have, however unfair, to serve life?”
- Act. Generously. Boldly. Without guilt.
Because life isn’t fair.
That’s what makes it fabulous.
With gratitude and fire,
Ann x
P.S. These are 5 other Enough Life Paradigms we explore in ENOUGH:
👉The Role of Luck and Serendipity
👉You Alone Must Walk Your Path, BUT Who You Journey With Matters
